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Healing is Boring Sometimes
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Healing is Boring Sometimes

Healing isn’t always rainbows, butterflies, and reflections that just click. Healing can be sooo boring and anticlimactic. After years of living in dysregulation and destabilizing environments where maybe you’re constantly being hypervigilance, anticipating everyone else’s needs, reading the emotional temperature in every room, or surviving and not thriving, calm can feel bleh, boring, weird, and foreign. When your nervous system has been wired for survival, stability can feel empty. You might catch yourself thinking, “Healing is lame.” or even “When is the other show gonna drop, because it’s way too quiet and things are going well for once”. 👀

But here’s the cold, hard, dull truth: boredom can be a sign that your system is learning safety, which of course is foreign in those who have chronic stressors, trauma, and complex trauma. For many trauma survivors, emotional intensity and instability has been the baseline for so long that peace feels like the absence of anything. If we think about it in a different way, it’s like you’re detoxing from adrenaline and constant crisis mode. The absence of chaos can feel unsettling, almost like something’s missing. You’re no longer in default mode, but learning how to operate in a new calm and peaceful mode.

This phase of healing isn’t what the movies make it out to be, it’s not immediately feeling awesome as soon as you dump all of your stressors into the trash. It’s not the deep cry in therapy, or the big aha moment, or the relief after a major breakthrough. It’s quieter and more subtle. It’s choosing to eat breakfast instead of skipping it because you’re actually listening to your body’s cues. It’s sending the text tomorrow instead of right now because you’ve learned to respond rather than react. It’s catching yourself before you spiral, taking a deep breath, and realizing that you don’t have to spiral and you can take back your whole day. It’s also the little moments of grief that you’ll find yourself in for missing the chaos and that is totally normal and valid. You’re creating this entirely new relationship with yourself and your reality, there’s going to be some grief from the changes.

If you find yourself craving “more,” pause before labeling it as going backwards. Ask:

  • Do I actually want excitement, or am I uncomfortable with calm?

  • What does “aliveness” mean to me now that I’m no longer just surviving?

  • How can I honor this slower, steadier version of myself?

Healing won’t always feel inspiring or transformative. Sometimes it’s quiet mornings, canceled plans, early bedtimes, and routines that don’t make for a great story. These moments are where your nervous system learns consistency, safety, and stability. That’s where real integration happens. Boredom isn’t the absence of healing, it’s the proof that your system finally feels safe enough to rest.

👉 Invitation for readers: This week, notice the moments that feel uneventful and notice internally if those are the beginning moments of peace taking root.

  • Sam Villarreal, MS, LPC, LCDC

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Fort Worth Community Resources: Local Organizations Offering Safety, Advocacy, and Legal Help
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Fort Worth Community Resources: Local Organizations Offering Safety, Advocacy, and Legal Help

Below are some resources in Fort Worth for domestic violence survivors, legal aid assistance, and immigrant support programs to help you or your loved ones get the care and protection that is needed.

🎗️ Domestic Violence Resources

1. National Domestic Violence Hotline

  • A national 24/7 hotline for victims of domestic violence. Can text “START” to 88788, chat online, or call 1-800-799-SAFE (7233).

  • 📞 1-800-799-7233 | 🌐 https://www.thehotline.org/ 

2. One Safe Place

  • A non-profit focused on providing comprehensive support to individuals who have experienced child abuse, sexual assault, domestic violence, hate crimes, and/or elder abuse in Tarrant County. They offer counseling services, advocacy services, childcare, food and clothing, immigration services, job skills training, legal assistance, parenting and relationship education, spiritual support, victim advocacy and case management, and healthcare/wellness advocacy.

  • 🌐 https://www.onesafeplace.org/ 

3. SafeHaven of Tarrant County

  • The only state designated family violence center in Tarrant County. Their end goal is to provide freedom for survivors of domestic violence. They have a 24/7 local hotline at 1-877-701-7233. They offer emergency shelter, bilingual counseling, children’s services, transitional housing, legal aid, and case management all free of charge.

  • 📞 1-877-701-7233 | 🌐 https://www.safehaventc.org/ 

⚖️ Legal Aid Assistance

1. Tarrant County Bar LegalLine

  • A community service program offered twice a month by the Tarrant County Bar Association where volunteer attorneys offer up to 15 minutes of free advice to Tarrant County residents on the 2nd and 4th Thursday of every month. You have to register online to participate. The next LegalLine date is 9/11/25.

  • 🌐 https://www.tarrantbar.org/?pg=LegalLine 

2. Legal Hospice of Texas

  • Their mission is to provide high-quality pro bono legal services to low-income persons living with terminal illnesses or HIV. They offer estate planning, assist with insurance, employment issues, public benefits, and housing aid.

  • 📞 214-521-6622 | 🌐 https://www.legalhospice.org/  

3. Legal Aid of NorthWest Texas

  • Works to ensure equal access to justice by providing free civil legal services to low-income individuals and families in the 114 counties across North and West Texas.

  • 📞 888-529-5277 | 🌐 https://legalaidtx.org/ 

🧑‍🧑‍🧒‍🧒 Immigrant Support Programs

1. Human Rights Initiative of North Texas

  • Provides clients with free, high-quality legal services to people who have suffered human rights abuses, as well as various social services for their families. These clients might be asylum seekers fleeing persecution based on religion, race, ethnicity, political opinion, or membership in a particular social group, those protected under the Violence Against Women Act (VAWA), the Victims of Trafficking and the Violence Protection Act, immigrants abused by a U.S. citizen or lawful permanent resident (green card holder) spouse, and/or immigrant children who are victims of violent crimes, neglect, abuse, or abandonment. Assistance is available by appointment only. They recently moved and are now located in Dallas off of Swiss Ave.

  • 📞 214-855-0520 | 🌐 https://hrionline.org/ 

2. Legal Aid of NorthWest Texas

  • Works to ensure equal access to justice by providing free civil legal services to low-income individuals and families in the 114 counties across North and West Texas. Individuals can apply for legal aid online or by phone. Lawyers are able to help immigrants with the paperwork necessary to help them gain status, especially in cases involving domestic violence, sexual assault, certain crimes, and human trafficking.

  • 📞 888-529-5277 | 🌐 https://legalaidtx.org/legal-topics/immigration-issues/ 

Finding support and advocacy for free or low cost can be incredibly difficult, so hopefully these resources are helpful to you and/or your loved ones. 

  • Sam Villarreal, MS, LPC, LCDC

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